The Myth, Lies And Fears of Marriage, With The Roles of Money in Marriage And Divorce. By Adewale Oladipupo. L.D.C

When there is a will, there is a way.

*The Myth, Lies And Fears of Marriage, With The Roles of Money in Marriage And Divorce*

Many always tend to assume money makes a home and marriage goes round. No No No! Money has nothing to do with marriage. In fact the better for you if you married when broke or when you start out when you had little or nothing because it is more painful for the rich that despite the money, they still get dissatisfied, disappointed, broken and hurt. This is why the rich break up faster in Marriages than the poor or the average people because they don't always have a reason not to call of the bluff. As humans and subjects  tends to be dishonest and treacherous or precarious in moment plenty and affluence. This is why most rich people are not always ok with a Yes Sir, Yes Sir dxummy subject because most, Yes Sirs are not out of a sane conscience but from a sold conscience just to get the meager pay or stipend. The idea of money is man made for resource control as We were not all born with money and would not go with one. 

So lack of money exposes our ills and weaknesses when it comes to lack of money or lack of resource. Marriages break because people people lie and we all have conflicting opinion and often we compromise just to tailor our needs to the interest of our supposed spouse or lover. The reason why a rich celeb breaks up easily while 2 poor and miserable couple try to hang in there like 2 bxlinded fxools who sees each other going down the endless rabbit hole but still chose to stay put. Hmmm marriage matter no be here o. If u see people who are married for 45 to 50 years, if possible worship them bcos the ways marriages start today and crack tomorrow like cracker biscuits no be here because before my very eyes I have seen lovers marry today, enjoy the marriage for the next 3 years... Wake up to the harsh reality of marriage at 4 to 5 years, problem set in between 6 to 8 years, if they survive the first (1st) wave they move on to the next 12yrs to 16 years, at 12 to 18years, despite the money, Comforth and affluence, If they don't separate, they continue to maintain their marriage by containment, it may not break nor appreciate, but they would just be stall and stocked in there and continue in the marriage for fear of the society stigma of what the people would say and how it would affect the kids.

 At this phase, the barrage of the emotional and toxic trauma escalate and they continue to play blame game. If couples can stay together without a marriage stress of 50% till they get to 16 to 18years together. Then there is no reason to worry if they would fail because there must be something else involve as the magic. Now look around... 95% marriages experience the 50% stress before the clock 16 to 18 years together. So literally, every marriage lifespan is minimum of 3years and maximum of 5 years. So if you can survive in marriage for the next 5 to 7 years in marriage, even if you don't get to 16years to 18 years. My brother and sister, you don try I swear because it isn't easy in this our digital age fool of too many overwhelming distractions. Every person who stand 16 to 18 years deserve real National or Global medal of Honor. 

Now to the third (3rd) phase. If your marriage can stretch a little further for the next 25 or 27yrs of marriage. Believe me your a G.O.A.T. thats all that is needed. When I see people who survived 25-26years in marriage you should be seen as a symposium or a case study bcos odikwa easy.

 Bu most would never ever get this far. Yes if you like say all "the God forbid" in your life and in your mouth and knack head for wall and do all the fasting and prayer, your most likely never going to stay 25 to 27years of marriage together, the era of 50 and 60 years of marriage together like Abraham, Noah, Moses and Methuselah is long gone. Sorry to burst your bubble. Our parents may have tried it and succeeded, same with our grand parents but in these generations, even the most powerful and most anointed pastors and marriage counselors wont come this far. This is not because people are bad, No. Its because God did not make us as humans to live as zxombies and mxorons txogether for long. So divorce is not a sin but a path to a better and a more peaceful life so lets quit the society stigma on divorce issues. Like a free flying bird and flowing river that empties at the depth of the ocean, "People are not made to stay together forever" Yeah yeah, You heard me right. That has nothing to do with prejudice of who is good or bad. Most divorcees today are by far 100 times better, happier and more peaceful than most married couples who have stayed together for years. If your a divorce or a single parent, never let anyone talk you down or look down on you..

 If anyone assume you to be weak to have quit your marriage encourage them to step in the shoes and get into the Crocs festered river and swim to safety if they could. They most likely would never be able to do 1/4 of your efforts, commitment and sacrifice. Money, weath and Comforth don't always guarantee peace and happiness but can only be a cussioning ground to take care of marriage inventories and basic needs or bills. People want something infinite in marriage that most cannot give even if you were to kxill yourself for love, you may never be good enough or at your best. If Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos, Dangote, and Many Great Rich men could quit their marriage despite all the money. 

Money would never take the place of I would be with you forever, it is easier for anyone to run and win a 100 meters race than for someone to run 100 kilometer marathon race because it is all about endurance strength and not physical or morphological strength but Psychological endurance. Marriage is not for kids and the likes of our digital age butter brain kids.. Those Allies in the wonder land snow white fairy tales does not exist in marriage. Marriage is not for mommy's boy and mommy's girl... Marriage is not for daddy's boy and daddy's girl. You need to be rugged, subliminal, pliant and versatile to improvise in any given condition. Wether tough or sweet sail. It has nothing to do with hobbies, likes, vision, ego, aspirations and ambitiousness... Their are many times you have to make more sacrifices and dxie or go down in pain for the other to be happy... This is why some love expert call it a prison or a bondage where you can not always have it your way nor have your voice heard always. Marriage has nothing to do with fairness, so don't expect to get fairness and 100% respect in marriage. 

It always don't work that way.. many times you always have to play the fool but the question is for how long? Thats is marriage for you. It is called sacrifice. You bleed, you bleed until there is no more blood left to bleed and you speak up by saying, "No more zxombies," "No more acting the fool" In fact there is a slogan that says "early  divorce is the best medicine to seek happiness and peace in life," there is another that says, couple who live more than 18 years together are liable to dies young. Yes, marriage cannot work for everyone, its an irony life is just wired that way.. One man poison can quickly become another man poison no matter how well you cook it. But for the sake of society stigma, many today live as prisoners together in the name of marriage instead of 2 best friends and 2 love birds together.☝️🤔